Phoenixjourney

I had decided that I was not going to post, write or work on my websites until I am done with my move.

January 7Th compels me to come back to my computer and write the following thoughts-which I had planned for a later time-to my son in law/son Trent Home.  Today Trent celebrates a birthday.  Happy Birthday dear Trent and bear with us as I attempt to tell the world what a great son, husband and father you are.  

Trent  and his  bright smile, sense of humor, wit, open mind and quiet loving way have brought joy, light and happiness into my life. 

He opened his home to me and  was literally a saving grace at a time that sadness, pain and heartbreak abounded.  He not only shared his home -which  was a place of refuge -but, also, his wife-my daughter. 

He unselfishly and with extreme patience, I might add, put up with my relentless crying and talking-that by itself makes him an angel.   And this took an angel or at least someone with perseverence.

He shared his garden with me, cooked breakfast for me and-much to my discomfort-  would not take no for an answer on his request that I join the family on any and all “activity” and “tradition” they had, when I just wanted to hide out in my room.  How many men do you know that instead of trying to avoid their mother in law insist that she join them?

Trent is someone that always looks at life  with an optimistic-glass half full  point of view.   He, for the most part, is pretty cheerful and upbeat.  The exception to this cheerful and friendly disposition being when he succumbs to his compulsion of vacuuming-carpet already vacuumed- or feverishly wiping kitchen counters already wiped by me, or picking up the one toy that was missed during the clean up.   Actually during , this ,this cleaning frenzy-we are the only uncheerful ones- he is perfectly  happy doing this.   It is the rest of us that need a new coping tool for this behavior or maybe a xanax or two.

  I love Trent not just because he is a good husband and he loves and takes care of my daughter or  because he has earned his children’s adoration-Jaden and Madisen fight over a (if might might say, an unflattering and Goofy) picture of Trent that is taped to the wall on Madisen’s bed.  I have had to comfort Jaden in his complete despair and despondency after losing the rights to that goofy picture-but because he, also, has loved and has a soft heart for Gavin, treats Brooke like a sister he never had, and has taken my son in a brother.  

Trent is a real morning person 7 a.m. is the middle of the afternoon at the Homecs.  That being the case I have been up by 6 A.M. to partake of freshly made veggie juice at out “juice party”-Juice that Trent has extracted with his jack La lane Juicer.  Now, remember I am the mother-in law-do you know any men that invite their mother in law to join them to  ”party” at the crack of dawn? 

Trent has been a loving and giving son to his parents.  He has equally been there for me.  There was a time that they had both-he and Audry- their mothers at their place along with the melodrama and theatrics packed in their baggage.

There is an old Irish poem that says: “     “A son is a son till he takes him a wife, a daughter is a daughter all of her life.””  but in the case of Trent he became my son first by he marrying my daughter, then by just being a son.

Thank you Trent..Happy Birthday

It’s the 5Th you say?  And you would be right. 

But here  at the Phoenix it is the first day of the New Year.  The first day that we get down to business that is. 

I am sure that most of us grumpily face the first day back.  Mom’s cheerfully sent the kids off to school but it, also means to get to busy themselves.  Dad’s face the office but they, also, get a brake from being responsible for entertaining the kids.  And I am not really posting anything meaningful-because I am losing my mind over the blog.  I am trying to launch one of my websites and I am packing up my house to move.  When the packing is done, we are heading to North County San Diego and from there we will head to Interstate 10 all the way to Florida.

But I will be posting and hope that you will be back…

I invite you all to check my article pages on the top of the page and to come back here daily to see what might be on at the Phoenix Journey.

I will keep it simple today and share with you Five Simple Rules for Happiness-I read it on someones desk and thought that it was worth making note of it.

I.  Free Your Heart From Hatred

II.  Free Your Mind From Worries

III.  Live Simply

IV.  Give More

VI. Expect Less